Monday, September 03, 2007

Can we do it yet?

My girlfriend and I are both 14 and we've been going out for two weeks. In the past 14 days we have talked about things from our dreams, to SEX.

At first I did feel too young for any sex. I even told her that we have to wait at least until we hit a month or two. I still feel as though we are way too young. But I'm not going to lie to you or to myself. I really want it. And she does too. We talk dirty on the phone pretty often too. She tells me all the things she wants to do to me and it drives me crazy.

We are really comfortable around each other hence the reason why we talk about sex and stuff. She tells me she only wants to do it with someone she really likes.

Are we moving too fast? Are we too young? Should I even consider having sex with her? I truly can't picture losing my virginity to any one else.

Ready or not?

Dear Ready,

Let me answer your signature: you are not ready. It's one part age, one part what you've said and one part what you're not saying.

I hear your hormones talking loudly, but I don't hear much about protection. How will you prevent pregnancy? Do you know your options? I hear you do a lot of talking, but not a lot of making out. Have you two ever been physical before? Have you ever had a relationship longer that two weeks? There is a lot more to learn about each other.

The biggest red flag is that you yourself think you're too young. Listen to yourself. It's important.

At the risk of sounding like an old fogey when I haven't reached 30 yet, you're too young to have sex because I don't think you've thought out the above questions. I hope this inspires you to start talking about them and determining whether or not you're ready to have sex.

Aunt Amy

2 comments:

kushy nate said...

The last thing you want is to be a father at 14 or 15. That will change your life forever. Even guys 10 years older than you make this same mistake.

Avoid it all, just wait. I'm not going to tell you how long, that's up to you. When and if you do have sex, you MUST use protection. MUST!

Crabby McSlacker said...

Good advice!

And there are plenty of things younger folks can do to "mess around" that won't get anyone pregnant.

I won't go into details, but... well, you can use your imagination.